{"id":927,"date":"2011-10-31T11:00:26","date_gmt":"2011-10-31T09:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=927"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:15:41","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:15:41","slug":"basarisiz-iliski","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2011\/10\/31\/basarisiz-iliski\/","title":{"rendered":"Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z \u0130li\u015fki Sizi De Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z K\u0131lar M\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1078\" title=\"Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z \u0130li\u015fki Sizi de Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z Yapar M\u0131?\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/iStock_000007526508Small1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"465\" height=\"343\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/iStock_000007526508Small1.jpg 806w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/iStock_000007526508Small1-300x221.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 465px) 100vw, 465px\" \/><br \/>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sa\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, solumuz her yer \u201cba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmu\u015f\u201d ili\u015fkilerle dolu. Hepimizin ge\u00e7mi\u015finde bir ya da daha \u00e7ok ili\u015fkiyi y\u00fcr\u00fctemedi\u011fi olmu\u015ftur. Peki ili\u015fkinin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmu\u015f olmas\u0131 sizin de bir \u015fekilde ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011funuzu mu g\u00f6sterir? Asl\u0131nda ge\u00e7mi\u015fimizdeki ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmemiz gerekti\u011fini biliyor muyuz?<\/p>\n<p>Bir bak\u0131ma ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z her ili\u015fki, \u015fuan ki hari\u00e7, bir \u015fekilde y\u00fcr\u00fcmedi. Peki bir ili\u015fkinin y\u00fcr\u00fcmemi\u015f olmas\u0131 ili\u015fkinin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011fu anlam\u0131na gelir mi? Devam etmemi\u015f olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen ili\u015fkinin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir miyiz?<\/p>\n<p><!--more-->E\u011fer iki taraf da ili\u015fki s\u00fcresince \u00e7o\u011funlukla mutlu olduysa, ili\u015fkinin size bir \u00e7ok \u015fey kazand\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsan\u0131z, bu ili\u015fki bitmi\u015f olsa bile ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olarak kabul edilebilir. Bir ili\u015fkinin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olup olmamas\u0131 sizin onu nas\u0131l alg\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ve nas\u0131l yorumlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zla ilgili!<\/p>\n<p>Belki de ili\u015fkinizin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 daha iyi tespit edebilmek i\u00e7in kendimize \u015fu soruyu sormal\u0131y\u0131z. <strong><em>Bu ili\u015fkiyi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in pi\u015fman m\u0131y\u0131m? Hi\u00e7 ya\u015famam\u0131\u015f olsayd\u0131m daha m\u0131 iyi olurdum?<\/em><\/strong> Tabii ki de her ili\u015fkinin ini\u015f ve \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015flar\u0131 var. \u00d6nemli olan hi\u00e7 ya\u015famam\u0131\u015f olmay\u0131 diler miydiniz? Yoksa sizi geli\u015ftirdi\u011fine ve size bir \u015feyler katt\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131yor musunuz?<\/p>\n<p>E\u011fer ili\u015fkinizi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olarak de\u011ferlendiriyorsan\u0131z ve bunun verdi\u011fi \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fcn yan\u0131nda bir de bu ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n sizden kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsan\u0131z kendinizi ciddi bir y\u00fck\u00fcn alt\u0131na koyuyorsunuz demektir. Herkesin hatalar\u0131 ve bu hatalar\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frendikleri var. Bu demek de\u011fildir ki t\u00fcm ili\u015fkinin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc kendi \u00fczerinize almal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z ya da kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin \u00fczerine y\u0131kmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kurdu\u011funuz ili\u015fki beraber in\u015fa etti\u011finiz bir yap\u0131ya benzer. Sadece sizin koyduklar\u0131n\u0131z de\u011fil, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinin koyduklar\u0131 da bu yap\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7erisindedir.<\/p>\n<p>Unutmay\u0131n ki her insan\u0131n bamba\u015fka beklentileri, istekleri ve arzular\u0131 var. \u0130ki insan\u0131n bu konularda paralellik g\u00f6stermesi kadar, birbiri i\u00e7erisinde kaybolmas\u0131 da m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Fakat, ili\u015fkinizi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z k\u0131lan her ne ise sizi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z k\u0131lmaz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; Sa\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, solumuz her yer \u201cba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmu\u015f\u201d ili\u015fkilerle dolu. Hepimizin ge\u00e7mi\u015finde bir ya da daha \u00e7ok ili\u015fkiyi y\u00fcr\u00fctemedi\u011fi olmu\u015ftur. Peki ili\u015fkinin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmu\u015f olmas\u0131 sizin de bir \u015fekilde ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z oldu\u011funuzu mu g\u00f6sterir? Asl\u0131nda ge\u00e7mi\u015fimizdeki ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmemiz gerekti\u011fini biliyor muyuz? Bir bak\u0131ma ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z her ili\u015fki, \u015fuan ki hari\u00e7, bir \u015fekilde y\u00fcr\u00fcmedi. Peki bir ili\u015fkinin y\u00fcr\u00fcmemi\u015f [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1077,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[984,22,110,293,193,100,68,99],"class_list":["post-927","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-arkadaslik-sitesi","tag-ask","tag-basarisiz-iliskiler","tag-ciddi-iliski","tag-ecift","tag-erkek","tag-iliskiler","tag-kadin"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/927","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=927"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/927\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4526,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/927\/revisions\/4526"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1077"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=927"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=927"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=927"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}