{"id":7918,"date":"2015-01-06T10:45:01","date_gmt":"2015-01-06T08:45:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=7918"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:21","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:21","slug":"masallardaki-gibi-bir-ask-ariyor-olabilir-misiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2015\/01\/06\/masallardaki-gibi-bir-ask-ariyor-olabilir-misiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"Masallardaki gibi bir a\u015fk ar\u0131yor olabilir misiniz?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cVe sonra prens ile prenses sonsuza dek mutlu ya\u015fam\u0131\u015flar.\u201d Bu c\u00fcmle size de olduk\u00e7a tan\u0131d\u0131k geliyor de\u011fil mi? Ejderhalar \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f, kurba\u011falar \u00f6p\u00fcl\u00fcp yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 prenslere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f. Her \u015fey harika ve mutsuzlu\u011fa yer olmayan p\u00fcr\u00fczs\u00fcz bir ili\u015fki. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ve huzurlu aileler. Peki ama hepsi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/p>\n

Hepimiz neredeyse t\u00fcm \u00e7ocuklu\u011funu g\u00f6kten d\u00fc\u015fen 3 elmal\u0131, sonsuza kadar mutlu ya\u015fan\u0131lan ve sorunlar\u0131n mutlaka \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc masallar\u0131 dinleyerek ge\u00e7irdi. Bu y\u00fczden midir bilinmez ama galiba \u00e7o\u011fumuzun mutlu olmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcndeki engellerden biri bu. \u0130dealle\u015ftirilmi\u015f a\u015fklar ve mutlu sonlar\u0131n hayattaki tek ger\u00e7ek oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yoruz. Kald\u0131ki maddi de\u011ferlerin \u00e7o\u011fu zaman manevi de\u011ferlerin bile \u00fcst\u00fcnde tutuldu\u011fu bir y\u00fczy\u0131lda mutlu olmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc? Her \u015feye ra\u011fmen evet bu m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Ama bu yine sizin hayattaki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ama \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 fark etmenizle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olacak.<\/p>\n

Biliyoruz harika yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131\/g\u00fczel bir e\u015f, g\u00fczel e\u015fyalarla d\u00f6\u015fenmi\u015f bir ev, araba, yazlar\u0131 mutlaka tatil ve ak\u0131ll\u0131\/\u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan evlatlar istiyor \u00e7o\u011fumuz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc idealinin ve olmas\u0131 gerekenin o oldu\u011fu y\u00f6n\u00fcnde fark\u0131nda bile olmadan zihnimize i\u015flenmi\u015f toplumsal bir kan\u0131 var. Bu y\u00fczden de \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ger\u00e7ek a\u015fk burnumuzun dibindeyken onu g\u00f6remiyor ve hatta yaln\u0131zl\u0131ktan \u015fikayet ederek hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 t\u00fcketiyoruz. Peki ama \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm ne diye sorarsan\u0131z asl\u0131nda bunun cevab\u0131 biraz da kendinizde.<\/p>\n

Hayattan beklentilerinizi ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131yla belirleyerek ba\u015flayabilirsiniz mesela. Hayattan istediklerinizin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesini beklerken hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framamak i\u00e7in \u00f6nce hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n ger\u00e7ekleri ile y\u00fczle\u015fin. Ve en \u00f6nemlisi ideal bir e\u015f aramaktansa sizi ufac\u0131kta olsa mutlu eden birini bir ideale d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeye ne dersiniz? \u00dcnl\u00fc yazar Tom Robbins\u2019in bu konuda s\u00f6ylenmi\u015f \u00e7ok g\u00fczel bir s\u00f6z\u00fc vard\u0131r. Anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z konuyu \u00e7ok g\u00fczel \u00f6zetleyecek. Robbins \u015f\u00f6yle der; \u201cM\u00fckemmel sevgi ve sevgiliyi yaratmak yerine, m\u00fckemmel sevgili aramakla \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc t\u00fckettik.\u201d<\/p>\n

A\u015fk\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu zaman mutlu eden yan\u0131n\u0131n zorluklar\u0131 birlikte a\u015fmak oldu\u011funun fark\u0131na varmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. S\u00fcrekli olarak sevildi\u011finiz, \u015f\u0131mart\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ve hi\u00e7 sorun ya\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir ili\u015fkinin asl\u0131nda \u00e7ok da sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmelisiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayat zorluklardan ve engellerden olu\u015fur. \u00d6nemli olan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fmeye yak\u0131n bir anda elinizi tutan elin ne kadar k\u0131ymetli oldu\u011funu bilmektir. Beklentileriniz, kriterleriniz elbette olsun ama onlara saplan\u0131p kalmay\u0131n. Sizi hayat\u0131n\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 yapmak isteyen birine mutlaka \u015fans verin. Bir \u015fey kaybetmedi\u011finizi, istemezseniz yolunuza devam edebilece\u011finizi bilin. Ama denemezseniz belki de hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 sessiz ve hi\u00e7 ya\u015fanmadan hayat\u0131n i\u00e7ine b\u0131rakacaks\u0131n\u0131z. E\u011fer a\u015fk bir tecr\u00fcbeler b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyse denemeli, hata yapmal\u0131 gerekirse \u00fcz\u00fclmelisiniz de. Oturdu\u011funuz yerde y\u00fczy\u0131l bekleyip sonunda bir prensin sizi \u00f6perek uyand\u0131raca\u011f\u0131na olan inanc\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n ger\u00e7ekle\u015fme olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n neredeyse olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabullenmelisiniz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc a\u015fk emek ister, \u00e7abalamak ister.<\/p>\n

Onun i\u00e7in \u015fimdi harekete ge\u00e7melisin. e\u00c7ift i\u015fte tam da bu anda sana yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak. Hatta oturdu\u011funuz yerde a\u015fk\u0131 bulma \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirme ihtimalini de art\u0131r\u0131yoruz J \u015eimdi dilersen www.eCift.com<\/a> adresine girip \u00fcye olabilir, dilersen de Android ya da iOS ak\u0131ll\u0131 telefonuna uygulamam\u0131z\u0131 \u00fccretsiz olarak indirebilirsin. \u00c7\u00f6zece\u011fin ki\u015filik testine g\u00f6re sana en uygun ki\u015fileri \u00f6nerecek ve mutlu olmandaki ilk ad\u0131mda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131z. Gerisi \u015fimdilik size kalm\u0131\u015f. Ama a\u015fka merhaba demek i\u00e7in en do\u011fru ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131z e\u00c7ift olacak. Deneyin, kimbilir sizin mutlulu\u011funuz burada gizlidir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cVe sonra prens ile prenses sonsuza dek mutlu ya\u015fam\u0131\u015flar.\u201d Bu c\u00fcmle size de olduk\u00e7a tan\u0131d\u0131k geliyor de\u011fil mi? Ejderhalar \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f, kurba\u011falar \u00f6p\u00fcl\u00fcp yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131 prenslere d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f. Her \u015fey harika ve mutsuzlu\u011fa yer olmayan p\u00fcr\u00fczs\u00fcz bir ili\u015fki. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ve huzurlu aileler. Peki ama hepsi m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,4],"tags":[2002,2004,193,2003,2005],"class_list":["post-7918","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ask","category-kalp","tag-ask-hayalinizdeki-ask","tag-ask-mumkun-mu","tag-ecift","tag-masallardaki-gibi-bir-ask-mumkun-mu","tag-sorunsuz-bir-iliski-hayal-mi"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7918","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7918"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7918\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7920,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7918\/revisions\/7920"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7918"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7918"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7918"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}