{"id":7453,"date":"2015-06-08T10:00:19","date_gmt":"2015-06-08T07:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=7453"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:20","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:20","slug":"ask-ile-evlilik-arasindaki-fark-nedir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2015\/06\/08\/ask-ile-evlilik-arasindaki-fark-nedir\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk ile Evlilik Aras\u0131ndaki Fark Nedir?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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A\u015fk ile evlilik kimine g\u00f6re birbirinin ayr\u0131lmaz par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r. Kimine g\u00f6re ise a\u015fk evlendikten sonra biter ve yerini al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k ya da tolerans gibi duygulara b\u0131rak\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise evlili\u011fin a\u015fktan \u00e7ok daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir ba\u011f oldu\u011funa ve a\u015fk\u0131n sa\u011flam bir evlilik i\u00e7in \u015fart olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131n\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 da evlendikten sonra da ki\u015finin a\u015f\u0131k olabilece\u011fine. Ancak hepsinin sonunda g\u00f6r\u00fcnen \u015fudur ki a\u015fk ve evlilik birbirinden biraz farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Peki bu fark nedir?<\/p>\n

\u00dcnl\u00fc filozof Platon da bu sorunun cevab\u0131n\u0131 merak ederek hocas\u0131na, ilk \u00f6nce a\u015fk nedir ve onu nas\u0131l bulabilirim diye sormu\u015f. Hocas\u0131 onu \u015fu \u015fekilde cevaplam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n

– \u00d6nce b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bu\u011fday tarlas\u0131 bul. Bir daha ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n noktaya d\u00f6nmemek \u00fczere tarla boyunca y\u00fcr\u00fc. Y\u00fcr\u00fcrken de en m\u00fckemmel bu\u011fday ba\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bul. Buldu\u011fun o bu\u011fday ba\u015fa\u011f\u0131 a\u015fkt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Platon, hocas\u0131n\u0131 dinlemi\u015f ve vakit kaybetmeden bir bu\u011fday tarlas\u0131na gitmi\u015f. Ancak geri d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde elinde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yokmu\u015f. Ard\u0131ndan hocas\u0131 sormu\u015f.<\/p>\n

– Neden bir bu\u011fday ba\u015fa\u011f\u0131 dahi koparmad\u0131n?<\/p>\n

Platon cevaplam\u0131\u015f;<\/p>\n

– Sadece bir tane bu\u011fday ba\u015fa\u011f\u0131 koparma hakk\u0131m vard\u0131 ve geriye d\u00f6nemezdim. Asl\u0131nda m\u00fckemmel bir bu\u011fday ba\u015fa\u011f\u0131 buldum ancak daha yolun yar\u0131s\u0131ndayd\u0131m ve ilerde daha iyisini bulaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek onu koparmad\u0131m. Yolun sonuna geldi\u011fimde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm bu\u011fday ba\u015faklar\u0131 o be\u011fendi\u011fime benzemiyordu. Bu y\u00fczden elim bo\u015f d\u00f6nmek zorunda kald\u0131m.<\/p>\n

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Hocas\u0131 da Platon\u2019 a hemen cevap vermi\u015f. \u0130\u015fte a\u015fk b\u00f6yle bir \u015feydir. Onu g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn ve a\u015fk oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131n an kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131s\u0131n. Platon ise bu kez 2. sorusunu y\u00f6neltmi\u015f. Peki o zaman evlilik nedir ve onu nas\u0131l bulabilirim? Hocas\u0131, Platon\u2019 u bu kez \u015f\u00f6yle cevaplam\u0131\u015f:<\/p>\n

-B\u00fcy\u00fck ve geli\u015fmi\u015f bir orman\u0131n i\u00e7erisine gir. Ard\u0131na bakmadan orman\u0131n i\u00e7erisindeki en uzun a\u011fac\u0131 kesip getir. E\u011fer buldu\u011fun a\u011fa\u00e7 orman\u0131n en uzun a\u011fac\u0131 ise evlili\u011fin anlam\u0131n\u0131 buldun demektir.<\/p>\n

Platon bu kez de denileni yapm\u0131\u015f ve ormana do\u011fru yol alm\u0131\u015f. Bu kez d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde eli doluymu\u015f ancak getirdi\u011fi a\u011fa\u00e7 s\u0131radan ve \u00e7ok da uzun olmayan bir a\u011fa\u00e7m\u0131\u015f. Bu kez hocas\u0131 sormu\u015f.<\/p>\n

-Neden en uzun a\u011fac\u0131 de\u011fil de bu s\u0131radan a\u011fac\u0131 getirdin?<\/p>\n

-Daha \u00f6nce a\u015fk\u0131 deneyimledi\u011fim i\u00e7in. Ormanda ilerlerken bu a\u011fac\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm. Benim i\u00e7in uygun oldu\u011funu hissettim. Ve i\u015fin asl\u0131na bakarsan\u0131z bu kez f\u0131rsat\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rmak istemedim.<\/p>\n

Ard\u0131ndan hocas\u0131 cevaplam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n

-\u0130\u015fte evlilik budur. Daha \u00f6nce o kadar \u00e7ok f\u0131rsat\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n ki tecr\u00fcbelerin sana mutlu olmak i\u00e7in ihtiyac\u0131n olan \u015feyin sadece sana uyumlu bir ki\u015fi oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterir. E\u011fer insan a\u015fk ve evlili\u011fi ayn\u0131 anda istiyorsa da f\u0131rsatlar\u0131n\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok iyi de\u011ferlendirmelidir.<\/p>\n

Onun i\u00e7in siz de a\u015fk ve evlilik i\u00e7in f\u0131rsatlar\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rmay\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc hayatta baz\u0131 \u015feyler insan\u0131n kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bir kez \u00e7alar. Hemen \u015fimdi eCift.com\u2018 a \u00fccretsiz \u00fcye olarak arad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fiyi kolayca bulma f\u0131rsat\u0131n\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rmay\u0131n. Kimbilir a\u015fk\u0131 aramak i\u00e7in \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bu\u011fday tarlas\u0131 yolculu\u011funda arad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fiyi e\u00c7ift\u2019 te bulur ve ormandaki yolculu\u011funuza \u00e7\u0131kmak zorunda bile kalmazs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n

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A\u015fk ile evlilik kimine g\u00f6re birbirinin ayr\u0131lmaz par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r. Kimine g\u00f6re ise a\u015fk evlendikten sonra biter ve yerini al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k ya da tolerans gibi duygulara b\u0131rak\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise evlili\u011fin a\u015fktan \u00e7ok daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir ba\u011f oldu\u011funa ve a\u015fk\u0131n sa\u011flam bir evlilik i\u00e7in \u015fart olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131n\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 da evlendikten sonra da ki\u015finin a\u015f\u0131k olabilece\u011fine. Ancak hepsinin sonunda g\u00f6r\u00fcnen […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,2383,4],"tags":[22,193,517,1871,1868,1872,1873],"class_list":["post-7453","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ask","category-evlilik","category-kalp","tag-ask","tag-ecift","tag-evlilik","tag-evlilik-ve-ask","tag-kadin-ve-erkek-iliskileri","tag-platon","tag-platon-ve-evlilik"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7453","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7453"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7453\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7459,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7453\/revisions\/7459"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7453"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7453"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7453"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}