{"id":6824,"date":"2014-07-08T11:46:55","date_gmt":"2014-07-08T08:46:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=6824"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:22","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:22","slug":"ask-bitince","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/07\/08\/ask-bitince\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk Bitince Kendinizi De Bitirmeyin"},"content":{"rendered":"

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O \u00f6zel ki\u015fiyi bulana kadar ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7e\u015fitli ili\u015fkiler sonland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ya\u015fanan ayr\u0131l\u0131k ac\u0131s\u0131 hepimizin ki\u015fisel deneyimleri aras\u0131nda yerini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, korku, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, hayalk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, su\u00e7luluk gibi \u00e7e\u015fitli naho\u015f duygularla kaplanan benli\u011fimiz yeniden kendini toplayana kadar biraz zamana ihtiya\u00e7 duyar.<\/p>\n

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D\u00f6nem d\u00f6nem beyninize h\u00fccum eden hat\u0131ralar, duygusal gel-gitlere sebep olur.<\/p>\n

Ancak, bu durumu bir kere atlatm\u0131\u015f olanlar bilir, bunal\u0131m g\u00fcnlerini ge\u00e7irip yeniden bir kelebek kadar renkli ve hafif hissedebiliyorsunuz. Bu noktaya daha h\u0131zl\u0131 ula\u015fmak i\u00e7in ayr\u0131l\u0131k d\u00f6nemi i\u00e7in birka\u00e7 tavsiye:<\/p>\n

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En az 3 ay ileti\u015fim kurmay\u0131n:<\/strong> Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 bir\u00e7ok farkl\u0131 duyguyu bir arada deneyimlersiniz. Bu kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k s\u0131ras\u0131nda, onun asl\u0131nda size uyan – arad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmekte zorlanabilirsiniz. Biraz mesafeli durup duygular yat\u0131\u015f\u0131ncaya kadar beklemek daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kararlar vermenizi sa\u011flar.<\/p>\n

\u00d6zledi\u011finiz \u00f6zelliklerine de\u011fil, eksik ya da ho\u015funuza gitmeyen y\u00f6nlerine odaklan\u0131n:<\/strong> Ge\u00e7mi\u015f d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde genelde tatl\u0131 an\u0131lar hat\u0131rlan\u0131r. Ya\u015fanan zorluklar, tats\u0131z deneyimler hep haf\u0131zan\u0131n en arka k\u00f6\u015felerine at\u0131l\u0131r. Hal b\u00f6yleyken, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa sebep olan davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 yerine g\u00fczel g\u00fcnleri anmak ve sevdi\u011finiz \u00f6zelliklerine odaklanmak \u00e7ok normal. Ancak, bunun size bir faydas\u0131 yok. B\u00f6yle durumlarda, hayalk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zamanlardaki davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131, eksiklerini, uyu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z noktalar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp tekrar etmek, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n do\u011fru karar oldu\u011funu yinelemenize yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n

Daha iyisini bulaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za \/ haketti\u011finize inan\u0131n ve g\u00fcvenin:<\/strong> Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fc en yo\u011fun bi\u00e7imiyle hissederken “daha iyisini bulamamak”, “yerine bir\u015fey koyamamak” korkusuna kap\u0131labilirsiniz. Ancak, mant\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcnce bu umutsuzlu\u011fun ne kadar yersiz oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. \u00c7e\u015fitli ili\u015fkilerde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z deneyimler sonucunda hem kendinizi daha iyi tan\u0131r hem ne istedi\u011finizin daha \u00e7ok fark\u0131nda olursunuz. B\u00f6ylece daha bir sonraki ili\u015fki her zaman ge\u00e7mi\u015ftekinden bir ad\u0131m \u00fcstte geli\u015fir. Zaman ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e olgunla\u015f\u0131r, ki\u015fisel deneyimleriniz artar ve hakketti\u011finiz ilgiyi ve sevgiyi verebilecek ki\u015fiyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fman\u0131za kadar haz\u0131rlan\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131\u00a0 ya\u015fay\u0131n:<\/strong> Alaks\u0131z yer ve zamanlarda a\u011flama iste\u011fi duyabilirsiniz. B\u00f6yle zamanlarda duygular\u0131n\u0131z bast\u0131rmay\u0131n. Uygun bir ortam yarat\u0131p b\u0131rak\u0131n i\u00e7inizdekiler serbest kals\u0131n. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dayken g\u00fcne\u015f g\u00f6zl\u00fcklerinizin arkas\u0131na, ofiste tuvalet kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n korumas\u0131na s\u0131\u011f\u0131nabilirsiniz. Bu d\u00f6nemi ancak ya\u015fayarak atlatabilirsiniz. Kendinizi s\u0131k\u0131p duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bast\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 \u00e7ok daha uzun ve zorlu bir hal alacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

D\u00fcnya ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za y\u0131k\u0131lmak zorunda de\u011fil:<\/strong> Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda herkesin verdi\u011fi tepki farkl\u0131d\u0131r. Kimisi \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcnden yata\u011fa d\u00fc\u015fer, kimisi 24 saat d\u0131\u015far\u0131da gezer. Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131, yeterince yo\u011fun hissetmiyormu\u015f gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp kendiniz su\u00e7lamay\u0131n. Kafan\u0131zda \u00e7oktand\u0131r haz\u0131rlanm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funuz bir durumu daha normal kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor olabilirsiniz. Her deneyimle biraz daha kolay atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ayr\u0131l\u0131klar s\u0131ras\u0131nda kendinizi ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmay\u0131n. Kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyan\u0131za odaklan\u0131n.
\n\u00a0Benzer Yaz\u0131lar:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

A\u015fk U\u011fruna Yapmaman\u0131z Gerekenler<\/a>
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\nAyr\u0131l\u0131k D\u00f6nemi \u0130\u00e7in Rehber Bilgiler<\/a>
\nKalp A\u011fr\u0131s\u0131na \u0130la\u00e7 Gibi Filmler<\/a><\/h5>\n

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    O \u00f6zel ki\u015fiyi bulana kadar ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7e\u015fitli ili\u015fkiler sonland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ya\u015fanan ayr\u0131l\u0131k ac\u0131s\u0131 hepimizin ki\u015fisel deneyimleri aras\u0131nda yerini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, korku, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, hayalk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, su\u00e7luluk gibi \u00e7e\u015fitli naho\u015f duygularla kaplanan benli\u011fimiz yeniden kendini toplayana kadar biraz zamana ihtiya\u00e7 duyar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6826,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[569,1808,1442,566,737,1004,193],"class_list":["post-6824","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-ask-acisi","tag-ask-acisini-gecirmek","tag-ayriligi-atlatmak","tag-ayrilik","tag-ayrilik-acisi","tag-ayrilik-acisini-atlatmak","tag-ecift"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6824","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6824"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6824\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11546,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6824\/revisions\/11546"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6826"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6824"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6824"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6824"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}