{"id":6468,"date":"2014-03-17T14:26:41","date_gmt":"2014-03-17T12:26:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=6468"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:37","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:37","slug":"ask-ugruna","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/03\/17\/ask-ugruna\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk U\u011fruna Yapmaman\u0131z Gerekenler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6469\" title=\"A\u015fk U\u011fruna Yapmaman\u0131z Gerekenler\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_1628858_smiling-woman-with-valentines-gift_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"424\" height=\"283\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_1628858_smiling-woman-with-valentines-gift_sizeXS.jpg 424w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_1628858_smiling-woman-with-valentines-gift_sizeXS-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 424px) 100vw, 424px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkiler bazen kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k bir hal alabiliyor. \u0130\u00e7inde olunca fark edemedi\u011fimiz durumlara kay\u0131ts\u0131z kal\u0131p gereken \u00f6nlemleri almay\u0131 geciktirebiliyoruz. En s\u0131k yap\u0131lan hata da, size iyi gelmeyen mutsuz oldu\u011funuz ili\u015fkileri bir \u015fekilde s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak.<br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\n<strong>Kendiniz olun:<\/strong> Sizi oldu\u011funuz gibi sevecek birini bulmak kolay de\u011fil. Ancak, size hakketti\u011finiz de\u011feri verebilecek, sizi \u00f6zledi\u011fini ifade edebilecek, g\u00f6zlerinizin i\u00e7ine bak\u0131p sevgisini anlatacak biriyle mutlaka kar\u015f\u0131lacaks\u0131n\u0131z. Sizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan, kusurlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fcze \u00e7arpan, zor g\u00fcnlerde ka\u00e7an biri ile uzun vadede mutlu olamazs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Anla\u015f\u0131lma ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyin:<\/strong>\u00a0Herkesin kendini \u00f6zg\u00fcrce ifade edebilmesi ne kadar gerekliyse, do\u011fru anla\u015f\u0131lma ihtiyac\u0131 da o kadar \u00f6nemli. Sizi duymayan, payla\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131za gereken ilgiliyi g\u00f6stermeyen, empati kuramayan biriyle ili\u015fkinizi yeniden g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmenizde fayda var. Anla\u015f\u0131lmak, en temel ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131zdan biri.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kendi kararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 verin:<\/strong> Hayat\u0131n\u0131zla, gelece\u011finizle ilgili karar vermeniz gerekti\u011finde bu karar\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak vermeyin. Anahtar\u0131 ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n eline verip pe\u015finden s\u00fcr\u00fcklenmek, sizi sonradan \u00e7ok pi\u015fman edebilir. Neyi isteyip istemedi\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u0130li\u015fkinizi etkileyecek b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fckteki kararlarda konu\u015farak karar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 hangi y\u00f6nde verdi\u011finizi sebepleriyle a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131n. Ortak bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretebilirsiniz ancak yaln\u0131zca kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak hareket etmeyin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mutlulu\u011funuz, i\u00e7 huzurunuz \u00f6nemli:<\/strong>Huzursuz ya da mutsuz oldu\u011funuzu fark etti\u011finiz bir ili\u015fkinin size pek faydal\u0131 olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 siz de kabul edersiniz. Ya\u015fam kalitenizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeyin, kendi mutlulu\u011funuzu \u00f6nem s\u0131ralamas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst basamaklar\u0131nda konumland\u0131r\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kendinizle ileti\u015fiminiz ve deneyimleriniz \u00f6ncelikli:<\/strong>Kendinizi geri plana atmay\u0131n. Arada i\u00e7inize d\u00f6n\u00fcp duygu, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve beklentilerinizi tart\u0131n. Hayatta gelemk istedi\u011finiz noktan\u0131n neresinde durdu\u011funuzu tespit edin, ula\u015fmak i\u00e7in neler yapman\u0131z gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Yapmak istedikleriniz yapamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir ili\u015fkide kendinizden uzakla\u015fma rskiniz \u00e7ok y\u00fcksek. Bunu fark edebilmek \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6zetle, hi\u00e7bir ili\u015fki sizin kendinizle olan diyalo\u011funuzdan, mutlulu\u011funuzdan \u00f6nemli de\u011fil. Kendiniz olabildi\u011finiz, huzurlu ve mutlu bir ili\u015fkiyi haketti\u011finizi unutmay\u0131n. Aksi durumlara sebep olan ili\u015fkilerden \u00e7\u0131kmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. \u00c7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda bunun ne kadar do\u011fru bir karar oldu\u011funu siz de g\u00f6receksiniz.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Benzer Yaz\u0131lar:\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h5><a title=\"Mutluluk \u00d6mr\u00fc Uzat\u0131yor kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/02\/05\/mutluluk\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Mutluluk \u00d6mr\u00fc Uzat\u0131yor<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Reddedilme Korkusu kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/12\/26\/reddedilme-korkusu\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Reddedilme Korkusu<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 F\u0131rsat Olarak G\u00f6rebilmek kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/11\/19\/ayrilik-firsati\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 F\u0131rsat Olarak G\u00f6rebilmek<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Do\u011fru Ki\u015fiyle Beraber Oldu\u011funuzu Nas\u0131l Anlars\u0131n\u0131z? kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/04\/01\/dogru-kisi\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Do\u011fru Ki\u015fiyle Beraber Oldu\u011funuzu Nas\u0131l Anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"\u015eimdi Gel De G\u00f6r Beni! kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2012\/09\/20\/simdi-gel-de-gor-beni\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u015eimdi Gel De G\u00f6r Beni!<\/a><\/h5>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">e\u00c7ift<\/a> &#8211; A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; \u0130li\u015fkiler bazen kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k bir hal alabiliyor. \u0130\u00e7inde olunca fark edemedi\u011fimiz durumlara kay\u0131ts\u0131z kal\u0131p gereken \u00f6nlemleri almay\u0131 geciktirebiliyoruz. En s\u0131k yap\u0131lan hata da, size iyi gelmeyen mutsuz oldu\u011funuz ili\u015fkileri bir \u015fekilde s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6469,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[22,1679,193,1681,1680,194,1088,1322],"class_list":["post-6468","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-ask","tag-dogru-iliskide","tag-ecift","tag-iliskide-dikkat-etmeniz-gerekenler","tag-iliskide-yapmamaniz-gerekenler","tag-mutlu-iliskiler","tag-mutlu-iliskilerin-sirri","tag-uzun-iliskiler"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6468"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11576,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6468\/revisions\/11576"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6469"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6468"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6468"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6468"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}