{"id":6450,"date":"2014-03-10T11:00:18","date_gmt":"2014-03-10T09:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=6450"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:37","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:37","slug":"ayrilik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/03\/10\/ayrilik\/","title":{"rendered":"Ayr\u0131l\u0131k D\u00f6nemi \u0130\u00e7in Rehber Bilgiler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6451\" title=\"K\u0131r\u0131k Kalpler\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_2865262_woman-with-broken-heart_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"424\" height=\"283\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_2865262_woman-with-broken-heart_sizeXS.jpg 424w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/stockfresh_2865262_woman-with-broken-heart_sizeXS-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 424px) 100vw, 424px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131k, her zaman zor.\u00a0 Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131, kalp a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131 ile beraber ge\u00e7en zor bir d\u00f6nemin ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131. \u00a0Bazen, sevgi \u2013 sayg\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesi korunamad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda daha da travmatik bir hal alabilen \u201cayr\u0131l\u0131k\u201d ard\u0131ndan ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\nB\u00f6yle durumlarda mutlaka yapman\u0131z gereken \u015feyler oldu\u011fu gibi, uzak durman\u0131zda gereken \u015feyler de var. Her\u015feyden \u00f6nemlisi, bu d\u00f6nemin ge\u00e7ici oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131p ileride geriye d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda hissedece\u011finiz hafifleme ve \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>A\u011flay\u0131n:<\/strong> Kalbiniz k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, birini kaybetti\u011finize \u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcze, onu \u00f6zledi\u011finizde, yapt\u0131klar\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u00e7ekinmeyin a\u011flay\u0131n. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131p i\u00e7inize atmay\u0131n. Zor bir d\u00f6nemden ge\u00e7ti\u011finizin fark\u0131nda olarak duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na b\u0131rak\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sessizli\u011finizi koruyun:<\/strong> Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u00f6fke ve k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ge\u00e7meden aksiyona ge\u00e7memenizde fayda var. B\u00f6yle zamanlarda s\u00f6ylenen s\u00f6zlerden dolay\u0131 sonradan ya\u015fanan pi\u015fmanl\u0131k, yap\u0131lanlar\u0131n etkisini azaltmaz. \u00d6fkenizi ya\u015fay\u0131n ve tepkilerinizi g\u00f6stermeyi zamana b\u0131rak\u0131n. S\u00f6ylemek istediklerinizi ona yazarm\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011fe yaz\u0131n ya da arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za yaz\u0131p yollay\u0131n. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 atman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kendinizle ilgilenin:<\/strong> Kendinizi ihmal etmeyin. Tam tersine \u015fimdi t\u00fcm dikkatinizi kendinize vermemnin tam zaman\u0131. \u00c7ikolata yiyerek kendinizi daha iyi hissediyorsan\u0131z, kendinize en sevdi\u011finiz \u00e7ikolatay\u0131 alman\u0131zda hi\u00e7bir sak\u0131nca yok. Stresinizi azalt\u0131p sizi rahatlatacak aktivitelere kat\u0131l\u0131n. Bu baz\u0131s\u0131 i\u00e7in yak\u0131n arkada\u015flar\u0131yla bulu\u015fmak olabilir, baz\u0131s\u0131 i\u00e7in uzun bir ko\u015fuya \u00e7\u0131kmak ya da spa ve masaj program\u0131na kat\u0131lmak.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dedektifli\u011fe kalk\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n:<\/strong> \u0130li\u015fkinin ard\u0131ndan i\u00e7ine d\u00fc\u015fece\u011finiz bo\u015fluk durumunda ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bilemeyebilirsiniz. S\u00fcrekli onun ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak edip Facebook sayfas\u0131na girmek, Foursquare \u00fczerinden yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yer bildirimlerini takip edip kimlerle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ara\u015ft\u0131rmak size bir\u015fey kazand\u0131rmayacakt\u0131r. Aksine kafan\u0131z iyice kar\u0131\u015fabilir. \u00a0En iyisi, t\u00fcm ba\u011flant\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bir s\u00fcreli\u011fine dondurmak ve kendi g\u00fcvenli \u00e7evrenizin (yak\u0131n arkada\u015f ve ailenizin) d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7ok \u00e7\u0131kmamak.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yard\u0131m isteyin:<\/strong> Bazen ya\u015fananlar\u0131n etkisinden kurtulmak \u00e7ok fazla zaman ve g\u00fc\u00e7 ister. \u0130\u015fin i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131kamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 hissetti\u011finizde umutsuzlu\u011fa kap\u0131lmak yerine yard\u0131m isteyin. Bunun utan\u0131lacak bir durum olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, hepimizin zaman zaman zor d\u00f6nemlerden ge\u00e7ip destek ihtiyac\u0131 hissetti\u011fimizi unutmay\u0131n. Yak\u0131n \u00e7evrenize ya da profesyonel birilerine dan\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Kendi ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za uzun bir zamanda \u00e7\u00f6zebilece\u011finiz sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7ok daha k\u0131sa zamanda atlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6receksiniz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00c7areyi alkolde aramay\u0131n:<\/strong> Bir kadeh \u015farap ya da bir bardak bira kafan\u0131z\u0131 rahatlatman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olsa da bu s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131 a\u015fmamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Depresan etki yaratan alkol\u00fc fazla t\u00fcketti\u011finizde istemedi\u011finiz durumlara sebep olabilirsiniz. B\u00f6yle durumlarda ger\u00e7ekten g\u00fcvendi\u011finiz insanlarla beraber oldu\u011funuzdan emin olun ve \u00a0\u00f6zellikle telefonunuzdan uzak durun.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Film izleyin:<\/strong> Kafay\u0131 bo\u015faltmak, karamsarl\u0131ktan kurtulmak, biraz g\u00fcl\u00fcp rahatlamak i\u00e7in film izlemek gibisi yok. Birka\u00e7 saatlik bir aran\u0131n size ne kadar iyi geldi\u011fini g\u00f6receksiniz. Ayr\u0131ca, baz\u0131 filmlerin ili\u015fkiler \u00fczerine olan bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131n\u0131za yeni alternatif bak\u0131\u015flar sa\u011flayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da belirtmekte fayda var. B\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemde izleyebilece\u011finiz filmlerin listesi i\u00e7in<a title=\"e\u00c7ift Blog - Kalp A\u011fr\u0131s\u0131na \u0130la\u00e7 Gibi Filmler\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/01\/08\/ilac-filmler\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Spora yaz\u0131l\u0131n:<\/strong> Spor, fiziksel sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan olumlu etkilere sahip oldu\u011fu gibi salg\u0131layaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z hormonlar sayesinde ruhsal durumunuzu da pozitif etkileyecektir. Daha sakin bir\u015feyler tercih ediyorsan\u0131z, yoga \u2013 pilates gibi kurslar\u0131 inceleyebilir; e\u011fer \u00f6fkenizi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p rahatlamaya ihtiya\u00e7 duyuyorsan\u0131z kickbox \u2013 tekvando gibi t\u00fcrleri ara\u015ft\u0131rabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sab\u0131rl\u0131 olun:<\/strong> \u0130li\u015fkinizin s\u00fcresi ve ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n yo\u011funlu\u011funa ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak de\u011fi\u015febilecek ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 bocalama d\u00f6neminizde sab\u0131rs\u0131zl\u0131k yapmay\u0131n ve kendinize zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n. Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 sindirerek yola sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde devam edebilmek i\u00e7in kendinizi oyalayacak\u00a0 ili\u015fkilere atmay\u0131n. Zaman her\u015feyin ilac\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Affedin ve yolunuza devam edin:<\/strong> Size ya\u015fatt\u0131klar\u0131 ne olursa olsun, ili\u015fkiler iki ki\u015finin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fimi ile var olur. Ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 geride b\u0131rakarak \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fcze bakabildi\u011finiz zaman, ona k\u0131zman\u0131n ne kadar anlams\u0131z oldu\u011funu farkedebilirsiniz. Olanlar olmu\u015f ve ge\u00e7mi\u015fi de\u011fi\u015fterecek bir durum s\u00f6z konusu olamayaca\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in kendi huzurunuzu ka\u00e7\u0131rmay\u0131n. Olanlar\u0131 geride b\u0131rak\u0131n, \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dersleri bir yere not al\u0131n ve kendi gelece\u011finize, yeni ili\u015fkilerinize odaklan\u0131n.<br \/>\n<em><strong>\u00a0Benzer Yaz\u0131lar:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h5><a title=\"Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 F\u0131rsat Olarak G\u00f6rebilmek kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/11\/19\/ayrilik-firsati\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 F\u0131rsat Olarak G\u00f6rebilmek<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Huzursuz \u0130li\u015fkiler Hasta Ediyor kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/03\/06\/huzursuz\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Huzursuz \u0130li\u015fkiler Hasta Ediyor<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Kalp A\u011fr\u0131s\u0131na \u0130la\u00e7 Gibi Filmler kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/01\/08\/ilac-filmler\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Kalp A\u011fr\u0131s\u0131na \u0130la\u00e7 Gibi Filmler<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Kalbi K\u0131r\u0131klar\u0131n \u0130lac\u0131, \u00c7ikolata! kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/09\/27\/kalbi-kiriklar\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Kalbi K\u0131r\u0131klar\u0131n \u0130lac\u0131, \u00c7ikolata!<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"Yeni Bir \u0130li\u015fkiye \u201cGer\u00e7ekten\u201d Haz\u0131r M\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z? kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/03\/08\/yeni-bir-iliski\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Yeni Bir \u0130li\u015fkiye \u201cGer\u00e7ekten\u201d Haz\u0131r M\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z?<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"\u201cEski Foto\u011fraflar\u0131 Silmek\u201d Mi Dediniz? kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/02\/20\/eski-fotograflar\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u201cEski Foto\u011fraflar\u0131 Silmek\u201d Mi Dediniz?<\/a><\/h5>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">e\u00c7ift<\/a> &#8211; A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; Ayr\u0131l\u0131k, her zaman zor.\u00a0 Hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131, kalp a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131 ile beraber ge\u00e7en zor bir d\u00f6nemin ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131. \u00a0Bazen, sevgi \u2013 sayg\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesi korunamad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda daha da travmatik bir hal alabilen \u201cayr\u0131l\u0131k\u201d ard\u0131ndan ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6451,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[22,569,1673,1672,566,737,567,1671,193,68,1026],"class_list":["post-6450","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-ask","tag-ask-acisi","tag-ask-uzuntusu","tag-ask-ve-ayrilik","tag-ayrilik","tag-ayrilik-acisi","tag-ayrilik-donemi","tag-ayrilinca-ne-yapicam","tag-ecift","tag-iliskiler","tag-uzun-omurlu-iliskiler"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6450","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6450"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6450\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11578,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6450\/revisions\/11578"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6451"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6450"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6450"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6450"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}