{"id":6332,"date":"2014-02-17T12:10:08","date_gmt":"2014-02-17T10:10:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=6332"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:37","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:37","slug":"bulusmalarin-kurallari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2014\/02\/17\/bulusmalarin-kurallari\/","title":{"rendered":"Bulu\u015fmalar\u0131n Yaz\u0131l\u0131 Olmayan Kurallar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-6333\" title=\"Bulu\u015fmalar\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/stockfresh_3595125_fun-dating_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"417\" height=\"288\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/stockfresh_3595125_fun-dating_sizeXS.jpg 417w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/02\/stockfresh_3595125_fun-dating_sizeXS-300x207.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 417px) 100vw, 417px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Tan\u0131\u015fma s\u00fcrecinin olmasa olmaz\u0131 bulu\u015fmalar. Ne zaman, nas\u0131l davranaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za emin olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda a\u00e7\u0131p bakabilece\u011finiz bir rehber kitap olsayd\u0131 diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz oldu mu? Yok mu bu i\u015fin kural\u0131, form\u00fcl\u00fc?<\/p>\n<p>Ki\u015fisel deneyim, beklenti ve tav\u0131rlara g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fiklik g\u00f6sterebilecek durumlar i\u00e7in bir kurallar kitab\u0131 olmasa da genellenebilecek baz\u0131 \u00f6nemli noktalar var.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\n&nbsp;<br \/>\n<strong>\u0130\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fclerinize kulak verin:<\/strong> Bilgisayar ba\u015f\u0131nda yaz\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131z, telefonda konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131z size bulu\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ki\u015fi hakk\u0131nda biraz fikir verir. Ancak, y\u00fczy\u00fcze g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek bamba\u015fka bir deneyimdir. Telefonda ya da mesajda g\u00f6zlemleyemedi\u011finiz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 farkedebilir ve ileti\u015fiminize yeni bir boyut katabilirsiniz. E\u011fer, \u00f6nceki konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131zdan olduk\u00e7a farkl\u0131 bir tav\u0131r sergiledi\u011fini farkederseniz ya da gerginli\u011fini fazlas\u0131yla hissederseniz i\u00e7 sesinizi dinleyin. Rahat hissetmedi\u011finiz noktada bulu\u015fmay\u0131 sonland\u0131r\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bir bak\u0131\u015f, bin s\u00f6ze bedel:<\/strong> Bazen mimik ve jestler, s\u00f6zlerden \u00e7ok daha fazla \u015fey ifade eder. \u00d6rne\u011fin, size sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131ktan ho\u015flanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi\u011fi halde, gitti\u011finiz restauranttaki garsona davran\u0131\u015f\u0131nda tutars\u0131zl\u0131k g\u00f6rebilirsiniz. D\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fe \u00f6nem vermedi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen birinin sizi dikkatlice s\u00fczd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmek de benzer bir \u00f6rnek olabilir. B\u00f6yle durumlarda, de\u011ferlendirmelerinizi yapmakta gecikmeyin ve tutars\u0131zl\u0131k sezdi\u011finiz zaman \u00f6nleminizi al\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Alarma ge\u00e7iren i\u015faretlere dikkat:<\/strong> Asla kabul edemeyece\u011finiz davran\u0131\u015flar mutlaka vard\u0131r. K\u00fcf\u00fcrl\u00fc konu\u015fmak, konu\u015furken s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn kesilmesi, s\u00fcrekli kendinden bahsetmek gibi&#8230; Sizi alarma ge\u00e7irecek bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 tespit etti\u011finizde g\u00f6rmemezlikten gelmeyin. \u0130leride harcad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z vakit ve enerjiye \u00fcz\u00fclmemek i\u00e7in pembe g\u00f6zl\u00fcklerden s\u0131yr\u0131l\u0131p i\u015faretleri ciddiye al\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>D\u00fcr\u00fcst olun:<\/strong> \u00d6nemsiz bir ayr\u0131nt\u0131 gibi g\u00f6z\u00fckse de d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck ikili ili\u015fkilerin ve ileti\u015fimin temeli. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiye beklentileriniz konusunda a\u00e7\u0131k olmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Yaln\u0131zca vakit ge\u00e7irmek, kendinizi iyi hissetmek i\u00e7in g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmekteyseniz, ciddi ili\u015fki aray\u0131\u015f\u0131nda oldu\u011funuzu s\u00f6yleyip yanl\u0131\u015f beklentiler olu\u015fmas\u0131na sebep olmay\u0131n. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fi haylk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 kalm\u0131\u015f olabilirsiniz. Size yap\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 istemedi\u011finiz \u015feyleri siz de yapmay\u0131n ve oyunlar oynamay\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130leti\u015fimi sonland\u0131rmak:<\/strong> Do\u011fru insan\u0131 ararken kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kanlar aras\u0131nda ileti\u015fimi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek istemeyece\u011finiz ki\u015filer olabilir. Size kar\u015f\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 farketti\u011finiz, beklentilerinizin uyu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlarda\u00a0 bu ad\u0131m\u0131 at\u0131p \u00e7izgiyi \u00e7ekebilmeniz gerekir. Kendi \u00f6nceliklerinizi belirleyip ona g\u00f6re hareket etmeniz sizin i\u00e7in daha avantajl\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. Sizi y\u0131pratacak ili\u015fkilerden ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. 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Ne zaman, nas\u0131l davranaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za emin olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda a\u00e7\u0131p bakabilece\u011finiz bir rehber kitap olsayd\u0131 diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz oldu mu? Yok mu bu i\u015fin kural\u0131, form\u00fcl\u00fc? Ki\u015fisel deneyim, beklenti ve tav\u0131rlara g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fiklik g\u00f6sterebilecek durumlar i\u00e7in bir kurallar kitab\u0131 olmasa da genellenebilecek baz\u0131 \u00f6nemli noktalar var.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6333,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[22,981,1651,193,460,1650,194],"class_list":["post-6332","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-ask","tag-bulusma-kurallari","tag-bulusmada-davranis-kurallari","tag-ecift","tag-ilk-bulusma","tag-karar-vermeden","tag-mutlu-iliskiler"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6332","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6332"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6332\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11586,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6332\/revisions\/11586"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6333"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6332"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6332"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6332"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}