{"id":5947,"date":"2013-10-21T11:50:12","date_gmt":"2013-10-21T08:50:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=5947"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:14:39","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:14:39","slug":"kotu-bir-bulusmanin-ardindan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/10\/21\/kotu-bir-bulusmanin-ardindan\/","title":{"rendered":"K\u00f6t\u00fc Bir Bulu\u015fman\u0131n Ard\u0131ndan&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-5948\" title=\"\u0130lk Bulu\u015fma\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/stockfresh_484404_man-giving-woman-romantic-gift-red-rose_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"396\" height=\"303\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/stockfresh_484404_man-giving-woman-romantic-gift-red-rose_sizeXS.jpg 396w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/10\/stockfresh_484404_man-giving-woman-romantic-gift-red-rose_sizeXS-300x229.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 396px) 100vw, 396px\" \/><br \/>\n&nbsp;<br \/>\nBazen b\u00fcy\u00fck beklentilerle gitti\u011finiz bir bulu\u015fma, hi\u00e7 de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz gibi gitmeyebilir. Bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc konu\u015facak konu bulamaz, gitti\u011finiz mekanda rahat edemez gerildik\u00e7e gerilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00f6yle bir deneyimin ard\u0131ndan ne gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere kap\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz? Su\u00e7u kendinizde aray\u0131p moralinizi daha da m\u0131 bozuyorsunuz?<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><br \/>\n&nbsp;<br \/>\n<strong>Arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 aray\u0131n:<\/strong> K\u00f6t\u00fc ge\u00e7en bir bulu\u015fma, keyfinizi ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi kendinize olan g\u00fcveninizi de zedeleyebilir. Bu g\u00fcveni toplamak ve sosyal becerilerinizin eksik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek i\u00e7in iyi anla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z, g\u00fczel vakit ge\u00e7irip g\u00fclebilece\u011finiz bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131zla bulu\u015fmak iyi olacakt\u0131r. K\u00f6t\u00fc ge\u00e7en bulu\u015fman\u0131n etkilerini en k\u0131sa zamanda geride b\u0131rakmak i\u00e7in arkada\u015flar en b\u00fcy\u00fck yard\u0131mc\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Olumlu y\u00f6nlere odaklan\u0131n:<\/strong> K\u00f6t\u00fc bir bulu\u015fma, karamsar taraf\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n a\u011f\u0131r basmas\u0131na sebep olabilir.\u00a0 Konu\u015facak konu bulamamak, sizin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zm\u0131\u015f gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir ve bundan sonraki bulu\u015fmalarda da ayn\u0131 sorunu ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n s\u00fcrece\u011fini zannedebilirsiniz. Oysaki, bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirerek barda\u011f\u0131n dolu taraf\u0131ndan bakmak, \u00e7ok daha yap\u0131c\u0131 olacakt\u0131r.\u00a0 \u00d6rne\u011fin, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za anlat\u0131p g\u00fclebilece\u011finiz bir an\u0131 olarak de\u011ferlendirebilir ve durumla ilgili komik noktalar\u0131 \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131karabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Motivasyonunuzu kaybetmeyin:<\/strong> K\u00f6t\u00fc bulu\u015fmalar \u00fcst \u00fcste de gelebilir. Ancak, bu deneyimler aras\u0131nda bir ba\u011flant\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, kendinizi geli\u015ftirebilece\u011finiz konular\u0131 tespit etmek size kalm\u0131\u015f. Bu konuda da d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bakan birinin, \u00f6rne\u011fin bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n, yard\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 alabilirsiniz. K\u00f6t\u00fc giden bulu\u015fmalarda ger\u00e7ekten elinizden gelenin en iyisini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131za eminseniz su\u00e7u, \u015fartlar\u0131n ve kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015filerin uygunsuzlu\u011funa y\u00fckleyebilirsiniz. Ancak, asla k\u00f6t\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye devam edip her bulu\u015fman\u0131z\u0131n ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde ge\u00e7ece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeyin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kendinize zaman verin:<\/strong> Beklentinizin y\u00fcksekli\u011fine ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n boyutu da b\u00fcy\u00fcyebilir. B\u00f6yle bir deneyimin etkilerinden kurtulmak zaman alabilir. G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131n\u0131za ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde devam etti\u011finizde g\u00f6receksiniz, bir s\u00fcre sonra o g\u00fcn\u00fc \u00e7ok daha az d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor olacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Fl\u00f6rt edin:<\/strong> G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta, \u00e7evrenizin fark\u0131nda olun ve fl\u00f6rt imkanlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirin. Bak\u0131\u015fma, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme kendinize g\u00fcveninizi artt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, moralinizi de y\u00fckseltecektir.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<br \/>\n&nbsp;<br \/>\n<strong><em>Benzer Yaz\u0131lar:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<h5><a title=\"S\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 Bir \u0130lk Bulu\u015fmadan Nas\u0131l Ka\u00e7mal\u0131? kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/05\/13\/sikici-bir-ilk-bulusmadan-nasil-kacmali\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">S\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 Bir \u0130lk Bulu\u015fmadan Nas\u0131l Ka\u00e7mal\u0131?<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 Alarma Sebep Olan Davran\u0131\u015flar kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/09\/13\/kirmizi-alarm\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 Alarma Sebep Olan Davran\u0131\u015flar<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"\u0130lk Bulu\u015fmadan Sonra Kaybolan Erkekler kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2012\/06\/08\/aramayan-erkekler\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u0130lk Bulu\u015fmadan Sonra Kaybolan Erkekler<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"\u0130lk Bulu\u015fman\u0131n Ard\u0131ndan \u0130kincisi Gelmeli mi? kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/07\/07\/ikincisi-gelmeli-mi\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u0130lk Bulu\u015fman\u0131n Ard\u0131ndan \u0130kincisi Gelmeli mi?<\/a><br \/>\n<a title=\"\u0130lk Bulu\u015fman\u0131z Kabusa D\u00f6nmesin kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131\" href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/01\/24\/bulusmaniz-kabus\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u0130lk Bulu\u015fman\u0131z Kabusa D\u00f6nmesin<\/a><\/h5>\n<p>&nbsp;<br \/>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">e\u00c7ift<\/a> &#8211; A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; Bazen b\u00fcy\u00fck beklentilerle gitti\u011finiz bir bulu\u015fma, hi\u00e7 de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz gibi gitmeyebilir. Bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc konu\u015facak konu bulamaz, gitti\u011finiz mekanda rahat edemez gerildik\u00e7e gerilirsiniz. B\u00f6yle bir deneyimin ard\u0131ndan ne gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere kap\u0131l\u0131yorsunuz? Su\u00e7u kendinizde aray\u0131p moralinizi daha da m\u0131 bozuyorsunuz?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5948,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2387,4],"tags":[193,1491,1495,826,1490,1489,1493,1496,1494,1492],"class_list":["post-5947","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-flort","category-kalp","tag-ecift","tag-ilk-bulusmada-konusacak-konu","tag-ilk-bulusmada-sohbet","tag-ilk-tanisma","tag-kotu-bir-ilk-bulusma","tag-kotu-bulusma","tag-kotu-ilk-izlenim","tag-sohbet-konulari","tag-tanisirken-konusulacak-konular","tag-yeni-tanisma"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5947","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5947"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5947\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11617,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5947\/revisions\/11617"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5948"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5947"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5947"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5947"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}