{"id":5379,"date":"2013-04-30T15:26:25","date_gmt":"2013-04-30T12:26:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=5379"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:15:04","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:15:04","slug":"erkeklere-dert-anlatmak","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2013\/04\/30\/erkeklere-dert-anlatmak\/","title":{"rendered":"Erkeklere Dert Anlatman\u0131n P\u00fcf Noktalar\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-5382\" title=\"Erkeklere Dert Anlatman\u0131n P\u00fcf Noktalar\u0131\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/stockfresh_2581176_lovely-couple-having-a-cup-of-tea-in-their-living-room_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"424\" height=\"283\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/stockfresh_2581176_lovely-couple-having-a-cup-of-tea-in-their-living-room_sizeXS.jpg 424w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/stockfresh_2581176_lovely-couple-having-a-cup-of-tea-in-their-living-room_sizeXS-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 424px) 100vw, 424px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Erkekler kad\u0131nlar\u0131 anlayamamaktan s\u0131k\u00e7a yak\u0131n\u0131r. Haks\u0131z da say\u0131lmazlar.<\/p>\n<p>Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu zaman atlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey, erkekleri kendileri gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcp konu\u015fmalar\u0131d\u0131r.\u00a0 Rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ya da ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 dile getirirken kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dil, yak\u0131n k\u0131z arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za anlat\u0131rkenkinden farkl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Aksi takdirde, sevdi\u011finiz erke\u011fin sizi \u00f6nemsemedi\u011fini, s\u00f6ylediklerinizi dinlemedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp \u015fikayet etmeye (erkeklerin g\u00f6z\u00fcnde \u201cd\u0131rd\u0131r yapmaya\u201d) devam edersiniz.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Hepimizin tahmin edece\u011fi gibi, bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcn\u00fcn sonu maalesef hay\u0131rl\u0131 bitmez.<\/p>\n<p>Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ve uzun \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc bir ili\u015fkinin temeli sevgi ve sayg\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda \u201cileti\u015fim\u201ddir. Birbirini anlamak, birbirinin ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 farkedip ona g\u00f6re davranmak ili\u015fkiyi zenginle\u015ftirdi\u011fi gibi aran\u0131zdaki ba\u011f\u0131 da g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPeki bu ileti\u015fim nas\u0131l sa\u011flan\u0131r?\u201d derseniz, size baz\u0131 tavsiyelerimiz var.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Unutmay\u0131n, kafalar\u0131n\u0131z farkl\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor:<\/strong> \u0130li\u015fkiniz, kendiniz ya da sevdi\u011finiz hakk\u0131nda herhangi bir yorumda bulunmak istedi\u011finizde kad\u0131n \u2013 erkek alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurun.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Direkt olun:<\/strong> Laf\u0131 doland\u0131rmay\u0131n ve anlamas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011finiz konular hakk\u0131nda imalarda bulunmay\u0131n. Gereksiz ayr\u0131nt\u0131lardan ka\u00e7\u0131narak, akl\u0131n\u0131zdakileri en basit ve d\u00fcz yoldan anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. Erkekler, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n aksine s\u00f6ylenenleri oldu\u011fu gibi kabul eder ve alt\u0131nda anlam aramaz. Bu sebepten imalarla anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak sizi de zor duruma sokacakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Yan yana oturun:<\/strong> \u0130kili ili\u015fki olsun, i\u015f yerindeki y\u00f6netici &#8211; \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ili\u015fkisi olsun birsini kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na al\u0131p konu\u015fmak gergin bir durumdur. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin kendini tehdit alt\u0131nda hissetmesine sebep olur. Tehdit alt\u0131nda hisseden ki\u015finin o an tek d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebildi\u011fi \u015fey, bu durumdan m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca \u00e7abuk s\u0131yr\u0131lmakt\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, istedi\u011finiz diyalo\u011fu sa\u011flaman\u0131z olduk\u00e7a zordur. Yan yana oturmak, g\u00f6z temas\u0131 gerektirmedi\u011finden, erkeklerin daha iyi dinlemesini sa\u011flar. \u00d6rne\u011fin, araba yolculu\u011fu s\u0131ras\u0131nda ya da televizyon kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda koltukta otururken konu\u015fmak daha etkili olabilir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Neye ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z oldu\u011funu ba\u015ftan belirtin:<\/strong> \u00d6rne\u011fin, g\u00fcn\u00fcn yorgunlu\u011funu atmak i\u00e7in biraz konu\u015fmak istedi\u011finizi ve kendisinden dinlemek d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir \u015fey beklemedi\u011finizi belirtirseniz, konu\u015fman\u0131z\u0131n sonunda bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00f6nermek zorunda hissetmeyerek daha rahat davranabilir ve ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funuz anlay\u0131\u015f ve deste\u011fi verebilir.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<br \/>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Bu \u00f6nerilerin aran\u0131zdaki diyalo\u011fu ne kadar etkiledi\u011fini k\u0131sa zamanda fark edeceksiniz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><a title=\"e\u00c7ift - Anasayfa\" href=\"http:\/\/www.eCift.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">e\u00c7ift<\/a> \u2013 A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; Erkekler kad\u0131nlar\u0131 anlayamamaktan s\u0131k\u00e7a yak\u0131n\u0131r. Haks\u0131z da say\u0131lmazlar. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu zaman atlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fey, erkekleri kendileri gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcp konu\u015fmalar\u0131d\u0131r.\u00a0 Rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ya da ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 dile getirirken kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z dil, yak\u0131n k\u0131z arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za anlat\u0131rkenkinden farkl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Aksi takdirde, sevdi\u011finiz erke\u011fin sizi \u00f6nemsemedi\u011fini, s\u00f6ylediklerinizi dinlemedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp \u015fikayet etmeye (erkeklerin g\u00f6z\u00fcnde \u201cd\u0131rd\u0131r yapmaya\u201d) devam edersiniz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":5382,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[22,647,1261,193,1262,1264,1259,540,1263,194,876,1260],"class_list":["post-5379","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-ask","tag-ciddi-iliskiler","tag-diyalogun-onemi","tag-ecift","tag-erkeklerle-iletisim","tag-erkeklerle-konusmak","tag-ikili-iliskilerde-iletisim","tag-iletisim","tag-kadinlari-anlamak","tag-mutlu-iliskiler","tag-mutlu-iliskilerin-temeli","tag-uzun-omurlu-iliskilerin-sirri"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5379","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5379"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5379\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11656,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5379\/revisions\/11656"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5382"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5379"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5379"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5379"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}