{"id":4666,"date":"2012-12-04T14:03:04","date_gmt":"2012-12-04T12:03:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=4666"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:15:06","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:15:06","slug":"tartismaya-son","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2012\/12\/04\/tartismaya-son\/","title":{"rendered":"Tart\u0131\u015fmaya Son!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-4667\" title=\"e\u00c7ift Blog\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/stockfresh_185295_a-big-scream_sizeXSs.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"568\" height=\"303\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/stockfresh_185295_a-big-scream_sizeXSs.jpg 568w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/stockfresh_185295_a-big-scream_sizeXSs-300x160.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 568px) 100vw, 568px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsan ili\u015fkileri dinamiktir. Bir g\u00fcn s\u00fcper anla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z biriyle, bir ba\u015fka g\u00fcn sa\u00e7 sa\u00e7a kavga ederken bulabilisiniz kendinizi. Ayn\u0131 durum duygusal ili\u015fkilerde i\u00e7inde ge\u00e7erli. Ancak, sorunlar\u0131 tart\u0131\u015farak \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak sizi hi\u00e7bir sonuca ula\u015ft\u0131rmaz. Aksine, aray\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131p ili\u015fkinizin bozulmas\u0131na sebep olur.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Yorgun, stresli, \u00fczg\u00fcn oldu\u011funuz anlarda nadiren kavga ediyorsan\u0131z, bunu normal kabul edebiliriz. Ancak, olur olmaz konularda sakin sakin konu\u015fmak yerine s\u0131k s\u0131k tart\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsan\u0131z bunu de\u011fi\u015ftirmek i\u00e7in farkl\u0131 bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 edinmeniz gerekir.<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6ncelikle, tart\u0131\u015fma hakk\u0131nda yanl\u0131\u015f bilinenleri d\u00fczeltmek gerekiyor.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Tart\u0131\u015fmalar ger\u00e7ekleri a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131karmaz:<\/strong> K\u0131z\u0131p s\u00f6ylediklerinizi sak\u0131nmadan tart\u0131\u015fmak, ger\u00e7ekleri a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131karmaz. Genellikle, k\u0131zg\u0131n ve \u00fczg\u00fcn anlar\u0131m\u0131zda kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini de \u00fczmek i\u00e7in asl\u0131nda pek de do\u011fru olmayan \u015feyler s\u00f6yleriz. B\u00f6ylece i\u015fler iyice \u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131r\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yak\u0131n \u00e7evrenize istedi\u011finiz gibi davranamazs\u0131n\u0131z:<\/strong> Ailemiz, yak\u0131n arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6nemli bir par\u00e7as\u0131 ve en b\u00fcy\u00fck destek\u00e7ilerimizdir. Tam da bu sebepten onlara kar\u015f\u0131 tav\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kontrol etmemiz gerekir. Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re daha anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olsalar da bu size istedi\u011finiz gibi ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rma hakk\u0131 vermez.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kavga ve tart\u0131\u015fmalar kontrol\u00fcn\u00fcz d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda de\u011fildir:<\/strong> Ne kadar \u00fczg\u00fcn de olsan\u0131z, s\u00f6ylediklerinizden kendiniz sorumlusunuz. Akl\u0131n\u0131z ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda de\u011filken, duygular\u0131n\u0131za kap\u0131l\u0131p tart\u0131\u015fma ba\u015flatmak asl\u0131nda kontrol edebilece\u011finiz ve \u00f6nleyebilece\u011finiz bir durumdur.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u00d6nce onlar ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131yor olsa da size tart\u0131\u015fma hakk\u0131 vermez:<\/strong> Sevgiliniz, e\u015finiz, arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olsun, biri size k\u0131zg\u0131n oldu\u011funu farkl\u0131 \u015fekilllerde dile getirdi\u011finde ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermeniz gerekmez. Ba\u011f\u0131ran birine sakin cevap verip tart\u0131\u015fmaya kat\u0131lmamak sizin kontrol\u00fcn\u00fczdedir.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sebebi ne olursa olsun, tart\u0131\u015fmak ya da kavga etmek ileti\u015fimsizli\u011fin g\u00f6stergesidir. Bu sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zmenin, kendi kontrol\u00fcn\u00fczde oldu\u011funu kabul etmeniz sizi \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme bir ad\u0131m daha yakla\u015ft\u0131racakt\u0131r. \u00d6ncelikle, tart\u0131\u015fmaya kat\u0131lmamak gerekiyorsa cevap vermeyip oradan ayr\u0131lmak, tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fcmesini engeller. Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki tart\u0131\u015farak bir yere varamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda daha sakin bir \u015fekilde duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi payla\u015fabilirsiniz. \u0130leti\u015fimin en \u00f6nemli unsurlar\u0131ndan biri, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakini anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. Yaln\u0131zca kendi sorununuzu de\u011fil, kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da anlay\u0131p \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131z gerekir. \u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcmleri beraber \u00fcretmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n ve \u00e7\u00f6zemedi\u011finiz noktalarda yak\u0131n \u00e7evrenizden g\u00fcvendi\u011finiz ki\u015filerle konu\u015fup destek isteyin. Unutmay\u0131n, \u00e7areler hi\u00e7bir zaman t\u00fckenmez, iki ki\u015finin anla\u015famad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir konuya \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc br ki\u015fi farkl\u0131 bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f sunarak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm getirebilir.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00f6ylece \u00e7ok daha sakin ve mutlu oldu\u011funuzu g\u00f6zlemleyebilir, daha verimli ve g\u00fczel bir ili\u015fki ya\u015fayabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">e\u00c7ift &#8211; A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; \u0130nsan ili\u015fkileri dinamiktir. Bir g\u00fcn s\u00fcper anla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z biriyle, bir ba\u015fka g\u00fcn sa\u00e7 sa\u00e7a kavga ederken bulabilisiniz kendinizi. Ayn\u0131 durum duygusal ili\u015fkilerde i\u00e7inde ge\u00e7erli. Ancak, sorunlar\u0131 tart\u0131\u015farak \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak sizi hi\u00e7bir sonuca ula\u015ft\u0131rmaz. Aksine, aray\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131p ili\u015fkinizin bozulmas\u0131na sebep olur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4667,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[994,193,997,993,989,991,992,995,996,986,990,987,988],"class_list":["post-4666","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-dogru-iletisim","tag-ecift","tag-huzurlu-iliski-icin","tag-iliskide-huzur","tag-iliskilerde-iletisim","tag-kavga-etmek-istemiyorum","tag-kavgalara-cozum","tag-sorunlara-cozum-uretmek","tag-sorunlari-cozmek","tag-tartismak","tag-tartismalara-cozum","tag-tartismamak-icin","tag-tartismayi-onlemek-icin"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4666","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4666"}],"version-history":[{"count":14,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4678,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4666\/revisions\/4678"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4667"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}