{"id":434,"date":"2011-10-17T15:01:36","date_gmt":"2011-10-17T12:01:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=434"},"modified":"2021-07-28T17:15:41","modified_gmt":"2021-07-28T14:15:41","slug":"nasil-bir-asiksiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2011\/10\/17\/nasil-bir-asiksiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"Nas\u0131l Bir A\u015f\u0131ks\u0131n\u0131z?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Duydu\u011fumuz, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz, dinledi\u011fimiz, konu\u015ftu\u011fumuz ve \u00e7o\u011funlukla da izledi\u011fimiz bir s\u00fcr\u00fc a\u015fk var.<\/p>\n

Bazen hi\u00e7 varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sorgulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bazen ona olan inanc\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybetti\u011fimiz, bazen hep arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bazen ararken ne arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 unuttu\u011fumuz bir \u015fey o. Ne oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015fa durduk. Nerede ve kiminle olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck. Yaz\u0131ld\u0131, \u00e7izildi, \u00e7ekildi \u00e7o\u011fu kez ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131. Bilimsel yakla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131, edebi yakla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7ok emin oldu ondan, baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise hep yalanlad\u0131 onu.<\/p>\n

Peki bizim hissetti\u011fimiz a\u015fk nas\u0131l? T\u00fcm bu olup bitenlerden farkl\u0131 oldu\u011funuzu hissetti\u011finiz oldu mu? Ya da tam tersine bir s\u00fcr\u00fc benzerlikler mi buldunuz?<\/p>\n

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Bir ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya g\u00f6re \u00e2\u015f\u0131k olma deneyimi herkes i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 de\u011fil. Hatta a\u015f\u0131k olman\u0131n ne demek oldu\u011fu bile herkes i\u00e7in farkl\u0131 anlamlara sahip.<\/p>\n

Ara\u015ft\u0131rman\u0131n sundu\u011fu de\u011fi\u015fik a\u015fk stilleri \u015f\u00f6yle;<\/p>\n

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Eros; <\/strong>Baz\u0131lar\u0131 a\u015fk\u0131 daha \u00e7ok tutkuyla ya\u015farlar. A\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu insana fiziksel ve duygusal olarak \u00e7ok yak\u0131n olmay\u0131 arzu ederler. A\u015fk\u0131 idealize etmeye meyillilerdir.<\/p>\n

Ludus;<\/strong> Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise\u00a0 a\u015fk\u0131 di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n duygular\u0131yla oynanabildi\u011fi bir oyun gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcrler. Arzular\u0131 ya da ama\u00e7lar\u0131 manipulasyon yoluyla kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131ndaki insan \u00fczerinde kontrol sa\u011flamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Aldatma, yalan ve sadakatsizlik Ludus olarak a\u015fk\u0131 deneyimleyenler i\u00e7in s\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131lan bir durumdur. T\u00fcm bunlar oyunun bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Storge;<\/strong> Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise a\u015fk\u0131 daha yava\u015f ve kademe kademe ya\u015famay\u0131 tercih eder. Yo\u011fun duygular ya\u015famadan \u00f6nce kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131ndaki ki\u015fiyi tan\u0131mak daha \u00f6nce gelir. Storge tabanl\u0131 a\u015fk\u0131n zamana ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r, samimi ho\u015flanma ve kar\u015f\u0131ndakini anlamay\u0131 i\u00e7erir.Bu t\u00fcr a\u015fk arkada\u015fl\u0131k ili\u015fkisine benzetilir. \u00a0Storge olarak a\u015fk\u0131 deneyimleyen insanlar arkada\u015flar\u0131na a\u015f\u0131k olmaya meyillidirler.<\/p>\n

Agape; <\/strong>Baz\u0131 insanlar a\u015fk\u0131 ilgi ve bak\u0131m \u00fczerine kurarlar. A\u015f\u0131k olduklar\u0131 insana kar\u015f\u0131 konulmaz derecede ilgilenmek ve bak\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcstlenmek isterler. Bu t\u00fcr a\u015fk ebeveyn t\u00fcr\u00fc hislere paraleldir. Agape tabanl\u0131 a\u015fk \u015fefkatli, ilgili, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli, nazik bir yap\u0131ya sahiptir. Kendinden \u00e7ok ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilmeyi sa\u011flayan a\u015fk t\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Mania; <\/strong>Baz\u0131 insanlar a\u015fk\u0131 kontrollerini kaybederek ya\u015farlar. A\u015fk dayan\u0131lmaz bir deneyimdir. T\u00fcm hayat\u0131 alt \u00fcst eder ve ki\u015finin t\u00fcm kimli\u011fini kaybetmesiyle sonu\u00e7lanabilir. Mania tabanl\u0131 a\u015fk \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n, muhta\u00e7 ve fevridir. Mania olarak a\u015fk\u0131 deneyimleyenler kolayca a\u015f\u0131k olabilirler ama a\u015fklar\u0131 kendilerini t\u00fcketmeye me\u011fillidir. Bu a\u015fk olgunla\u015famadan ki\u015fiyi yorar ve duygusal olarak bitirir.<\/p>\n

Pragma; <\/strong>Baz\u0131 insanlar a\u015fk\u0131 <\/strong>daha pratik olarak ya\u015farlar.A\u015fk yo\u011fun, \u00e7\u0131lg\u0131n ya da kontrol d\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fildir. Ortak sa\u011fduyu ve ak\u0131l \u00fczerine kurulur. Pragma olarak a\u015fk\u0131 deneyimleyenler ciddi hayat kararlar\u0131 verircesine kendilerine uygun bir e\u015f se\u00e7erler.E\u015f se\u00e7imi dikkatli bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f \u00fczerine kuruludur.Pratik nedenler bu a\u015fk i\u00e7in \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n

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Siz hangi a\u015fk\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131yorsunuz?<\/p>\n

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    Duydu\u011fumuz, g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz, dinledi\u011fimiz, konu\u015ftu\u011fumuz ve \u00e7o\u011funlukla da izledi\u011fimiz bir s\u00fcr\u00fc a\u015fk var. Bazen hi\u00e7 varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sorgulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bazen ona olan inanc\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybetti\u011fimiz, bazen hep arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, bazen ararken ne arad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 unuttu\u011fumuz bir \u015fey o. Ne oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015fa durduk. Nerede ve kiminle olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck. Yaz\u0131ld\u0131, \u00e7izildi, \u00e7ekildi \u00e7o\u011fu kez ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131. Bilimsel yakla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131, edebi yakla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":917,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[87,984,22,89,293,193,85,68,86,91,88,90],"class_list":["post-434","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-agape","tag-arkadaslik-sitesi","tag-ask","tag-askin-cesitleri","tag-ciddi-iliski","tag-ecift","tag-eros","tag-iliskiler","tag-ludus","tag-mania","tag-pragma","tag-storge"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=434"}],"version-history":[{"count":21,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4536,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/434\/revisions\/4536"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/917"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=434"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=434"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=434"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}