{"id":3974,"date":"2020-08-26T13:39:00","date_gmt":"2020-08-26T10:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/?p=3974"},"modified":"2022-04-30T16:42:32","modified_gmt":"2022-04-30T13:42:32","slug":"iliski-bittiginde","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/2020\/08\/26\/iliski-bittiginde\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130li\u015fki Bitti\u011finde Asla Yapmaman\u0131z Gerekenler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3975\" title=\"Ayr\u0131l\u0131k Ac\u0131s\u0131\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/stockfresh_886666_girl-crying-on-the-phone_sizeXS.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"424\" height=\"283\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/stockfresh_886666_girl-crying-on-the-phone_sizeXS.jpg 424w, https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/08\/stockfresh_886666_girl-crying-on-the-phone_sizeXS-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 424px) 100vw, 424px\" \/><br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.ecift.com\">\u0130li\u015fkiler<\/a>, her zaman mutlu sonlara ula\u015fm\u0131yor. Ancak, do\u011fru ki\u015fiyi bulmak ve onun de\u011ferini daha iyi anlamak i\u00e7in ayr\u0131l\u0131klara da ihtiya\u00e7 var.<\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n, ili\u015fki ve ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fse de zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oldu\u011funu hepimiz biliyoruz. Bu s\u00fcreci daha k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede geride b\u0131rakmak da kendinizi kontrol etmenize ba\u011fl\u0131.<\/p>\n<p>En s\u0131k yap\u0131lan hatalar, bu s\u00fcreci karma\u015f\u0131kla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi daha fazla zaman harcaman\u0131za sebep oluyor.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Ayr\u0131l\u0131k d\u00f6nemini en k\u0131sa zamanda atlatman\u0131z i\u00e7in yapmaman\u0131z gerekenler:<\/p>\n<p><strong>Arkada\u015f olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak:<\/strong> Ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131nda araya mesafe koyun. Bu zamana ve mesafeye iki taraf\u0131n da ihtiyac\u0131 var. Sizinle g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek ve arkada\u015f kalmak konusunda \u0131srar ediyorsa reddedin. Kalbinizin k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve bunu atlatman\u0131z\u0131n zaman alaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130leti\u015fimi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek:<\/strong> T\u0131pk\u0131 arkada\u015f olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma gibi ileti\u015fimi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek de yap\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekenlerden. \u0130li\u015fkinin sebep oldu\u011fu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131k sebebiyle onunla konu\u015fma, g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131n\u0131zdan anlar payla\u015fma iste\u011fi hissetmeniz \u00e7ok normaldir. Ancak, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 kabullenmek ve yollar\u0131n\u0131za ayr\u0131 olarak devam etmek i\u00e7in bu payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 en aza indirgemeniz gerekir. Arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za odaklan\u0131n ve al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 bu y\u00f6nde de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Yeniden biraraya gelmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak:<\/strong>\u00a0 Baz\u0131 durumlarda ayr\u0131l\u0131nca hissedilen bo\u015fluk \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck olur. Bu bo\u015flukla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenler yeniden biraraya gelmek i\u00e7in \u00e7abalayabilir. B\u00f6yle zamanlarda kendinize hat\u0131rlaman\u0131z gereken, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n bir sebebi oldu\u011fudur. Biraraya gelseniz dahi, ayn\u0131 sorunlar devam edecek ve yeniden ayr\u0131l\u0131k noktas\u0131na gelmeniz \u00e7ok k\u0131sa s\u00fcrecektir. Bunun ge\u00e7ici bir d\u00f6nem oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek sab\u0131rl\u0131 olman\u0131z\u0131 tavsiye ederiz. Sonras\u0131nda \u00e7ok daha mutlu olacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130ntikam planlamak:<\/strong> Kalbiniz k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131nca \u00f6fkeye kap\u0131labilir ve intikam alma iste\u011fi duyabilirsiniz. Ancak, \u00f6fkeyle kalkan, zararla oturur. Sonradan pi\u015fman olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir \u015fey yapma olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u00f6fkeliyken \u00e7ok daha y\u00fcksektir. Kendinizi haks\u0131z duruma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrecek, kendinize sayg\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kaybettirecek hatalardan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. \u00d6fkeniz zamanla ge\u00e7ecek ve kap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerin size yabanc\u0131 gelece\u011fini g\u00f6receksiniz.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sa\u00e7 kestirmek, d\u00f6vme yapt\u0131rmak:<\/strong> \u00d6zellikle kad\u0131nlar\u0131n s\u0131k\u00e7a yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u015fey, mutsuz olunan d\u00f6nemlerde de\u011fi\u015fiklik yapmakt\u0131r. Yeni k\u0131yafet, ayakkab\u0131 al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi yapmak, sa\u00e7 kestirmek ve boyatmak en s\u0131k yap\u0131lan de\u011fi\u015fikliklerdendir. Ancak, duygusall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z normalde yapmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u015feyleri yapman\u0131za sebep olabilir. Bu sebepten, ayr\u0131l\u0131k sonras\u0131 d\u00f6nemde radikal de\u011fi\u015fiklikler yapmay\u0131n. \u00d6zellikle de d\u00f6vme gibi geri d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc olmayan kararlar sizi pi\u015fman edebilir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Facebook profilini kontrol etmek:<\/strong> Ayr\u0131lsan\u0131z da akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karmak ve ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak etmemek elde de\u011fil.\u00a0 Ancak, be\u015f dakikada bir Facebook sayfas\u0131na bak\u0131p payla\u015f\u0131lanlar\u0131 incelemek size unutman\u0131z ve onu akl\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00e7\u0131karman\u0131z konusunda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmayacakt\u0131r. En iyisi bilgisayar ve \u00f6zellikle Facebook\u2019tan m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011fu kadar uzak durmak ve d\u0131\u015far\u0131da, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla, ailenizle zaman ge\u00e7irmek olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u0130yiymi\u015fsiniz gibi davranmak:<\/strong> Ayr\u0131l\u0131k herkes i\u00e7in zordur. \u00dcz\u00fclmek, bu d\u00f6nemi atlatmakta zorlanmak saklanmas\u0131 gereken durumlar de\u011fildir. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ya da k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 yaln\u0131zca ya\u015fayarak atlatabilirsiniz. Aksine, hi\u00e7 etkilenmemi\u015f gibi davranmak duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ge\u00e7i\u015ftirmenize sebep olur ve ger\u00e7ekten normale d\u00f6nmenizi geciktirir.<\/p>\n<p>T\u00fcm bunlara ek olarak, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n getirdi\u011fi t\u00fcm \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc \u2013 \u00f6fke \u2013 k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k gibi duygular\u0131n ge\u00e7ici oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlay\u0131n. Zamanla bamba\u015fka bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 kazanacaks\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\">e\u00c7ift &#8211; A\u015fk Burada Ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u0130li\u015fkiler, her zaman mutlu sonlara ula\u015fm\u0131yor. Ancak, do\u011fru ki\u015fiyi bulmak ve onun de\u011ferini daha iyi anlamak i\u00e7in ayr\u0131l\u0131klara da ihtiya\u00e7 var. Ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n, ili\u015fki ve ki\u015fiye g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fse de zor bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 oldu\u011funu hepimiz biliyoruz. Bu s\u00fcreci daha k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede geride b\u0131rakmak da kendinizi kontrol etmenize ba\u011fl\u0131. En s\u0131k yap\u0131lan hatalar, bu s\u00fcreci karma\u015f\u0131kla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi daha [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3975,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[984,22,737,738,743,744,739,110,293,193,740,742,741],"class_list":["post-3974","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kalp","tag-arkadaslik-sitesi","tag-ask","tag-ayrilik-acisi","tag-ayrilik-donemini-atlatmanin-yollari","tag-ayrilik-sonrasi-depresyon","tag-ayrilik-sonrasi-hatalar","tag-ayrilinca-asla-yapilmamasi-gerekenler","tag-basarisiz-iliskiler","tag-ciddi-iliski","tag-ecift","tag-iliski-bitince","tag-mutsuz-son","tag-onu-geri-istiyorum"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3974","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3974"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3974\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13581,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3974\/revisions\/13581"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3975"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3974"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3974"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.ecift.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3974"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}